Quotes and thoughts
Many of the quotes below are paraphrased, and some authors I forget
"It's really not about willpower...your brain is using your past in order to predict the future and this becomes your present, you cannot go back into your past and change it, I mean you can try, but what you can do is change your present, which becomes your past, and will lead to a new prediction for the future..you're always cultivating your past!"
- Lisa Feldman Barrett
“Know all the theories, master all the techniques, but as you touch a human soul be just another human soul.” -Carl Jung
"Life isn't about the pursuit of happiness, but the happiness of the pursuit" - Robert Sapolsky
"The curious paradox is that when I accept myself for who I am, then I change" -Carl Rogers
"This defense was once very important, but now it is hurting you, it may no longer be necessary" Louis Cozolino
It's really not about willpower...your brain is using your past in order to predict the future and this becomes your present, you cannot go back into your past and change it, I mean you can try, but what you can do is change your present, which becomes your past, and will lead to a new prediction for the future..you're always cultivating your past!
"You deserve it" - Charismatic spa manager, name forgotten.
"What do I want to exist even if I don't, and, how much of a difference am I making to it?" -John Vervaeke
On depression and suicide: "we misunderstand that it is our fundamental orientation with the world that must die, and instead assume that it is us, our whole self that must die, not our skewed orientation that must change" -John Vervaeke
"Name it to tame it, feel it to heal it" -Dan Siegel
"Think of emotions as being released in order. If the order cannot be completed, the emotional learning we need to move on, to be safe in the face of the trigger and desensitize from it does not happen. If the scary emotions are not soothed, they stay stuck, ready to be retriggers to protect us. Soothe through compassionate understanding, start by being curous about yourself" -Tori Olds
"Language helps us stay regulated. Curiosity and descriptions of an experience change our relationship with it. Curiosity requires openness, openness is step towards greater realization, integration, wider perspective, change."
Saying things and writing them down puts them into the world, and once there, our minds can interact with them in a new way. Getting things into the world allows us to evaluate them, think of how we change our minds when we say something out loud. To cange and emotional schema, complete the emotional arc, feel the fear and find a juxtaposition, find a piece of evidence in the present moment or past that proves the fearful prediction wrong" -Tori Olds or Bruce Ecker
"It's not about watching what we say, it's about watching our mood which shapes what we say"
"Meaning is found in relationship with things, like a locke and key. What does A mean to you, and what do you mean to A?" - John Vervaeke
"It's not about watching what we say, it's about watching our mood which shapes what we say"
All that is gold does not glitter, not all those who wander are lost; the old that is strong does not wither, deep roots are not reached by the frost. J.R.R. Tolkien
“Fantasy is escapist, and that is its glory. If a soldier is imprisioned by the enemy, don't we consider it his duty to escape?. . .If we value the freedom of mind and soul, if we're partisans of liberty, then it's our plain duty to escape, and to take as many people with us as we can!” J.R.R. Tolkien
“Humans need fantasy to be human. To be the place where the falling angel meets the rising ape.” Sir Terry Pratchett
“Belief is one of the most powerful organic forces in the multiverse. It may not be able to move mountains, exactly. But it can create someone who can." - Sir Terry Pratchett